The topic of grooming prior to being in a relationship has come up over the years. I find it interesting that people who were into waxing before marriage and kids tend to fall off after they get into that comfortable relationship. My other friends in the business have confirmed the same insight.
I was told by a female client that she waxed until she got the man hooked and then once she hooked him said he wasn’t going anywhere. This comment makes it sound like waxing means your partner won’t cheat on you and this isn’t even remotely what I want to emphasize. I do on the other hand want to emphasize that more than likely the point of waxing was to make you feel good about yourself and promoting self-confidence and sexiness from within which is what your partner was attracted to.
Anyone that’s been in a relationship knows that over the year’s people tend to “let themselves go” which does frustrate and disappoint the other partner. In my mind, beauty services such as hair removal, mani/pedi’s and haircuts/color are equal to going to the gym. Self-care is important for ourselves and our intimate relationships, not just the shallowness that seems to be associated with doing this.
Whatever you did before you got the guy/girl you should still keep doing. Women still need to keep the sparkle and men still need to appreciate that you do this. Men are not exempt from this either, if he was grooming before he should still be at it after he’s gotten the girl. I even have husbands and wives that come in together, I think this is so awesome. Partners that wax together stay together!
Regardless of your orientation or anatomy, if you’ve got hair on it, we’ll wax it (there are a few exceptions, like scalp and beard)! Our Brazilian FAQ and Men’s Waxing FAQ discuss most common concerns, but feel free to contact us with any questions.
If you’re reading this more than likely you’ve heard of this and may have actually been diagnosed with it. If you haven’t heard of this, it’s a cyst that’s typically located near the tailbone at the top of the cleft of the buttocks. This happens in Men and Women and can be irritated by long periods of sitting.
The cysts usually occur when the hair punctures the skin and then becomes embedded. The best way to avoid this painful cyst from appearing is to wax the hair on and around it.
I have seen these over the years of waxing but it seems that it’s becoming more common for Doctors to refer their patients to an esthetician to have the area waxed. This is awesome education for all of us and I am happy to oblige in offering the ability to wax this area.
This is a very simple, fast and painless area to have waxed. If you’d like to book this service, you may do so by booking online and clicking on the service marked “butt cheeks and or crack” or you can email email@example.com and let me know this is a Pilonidal waxing service.
A rash looks like little red dots and can be an irritation from the waxing service and usually disappears within 24 hours. You may also experience an allergic reaction to the wax or any before and after products used on the skin. Although this is very uncommon, anyone can be allergic to anything.
Ingrowns usually appear within a week or so of the waxing appointment and can last for up to 7-10 days. There are several different looks to an ingrown:
- “The under-grounder” usually feels like a hard nodule and can sometimes be painful and feel like it has its own heartbeat. You can use a heat compress to soften them up so they can release the fluids. You can also then try and dry them out at the core, meaning get the puss and blood to release out of the ingrown or hope that the fluids dry up which causes that uncomfortable throbbing to go away.
- “The black dot”, this ingrown is harmless and if you gently push on it, it will come out sort of like a blackhead. This type of ingrown is the hair coiling under the skin but not becoming infected.
- “The little red ingrown” these usually happen from friction and men are more susceptible because they wear jeans and belts which can rub on the area (butt cheeks and top of groin area) and cause the skin to get chafed and then the hairs have a hard time growing back out of the skin.
Ways to alleviate ingrowns or deal with them once they have appeared.
1. Tea tree oil on wet (w/water) cotton ball or pad 1x per day until sign of irritation is gone. Apply over affected area. You can also use products that have Salicylic acid in it which you can usually find in drugstores in the face wash aisle.
2. Exfoliating using loofah gloves or a sea salt or sugar scrub. Men are the worst at taking care of their skin but skin is skin it sees no gender so you must attend to it or you will experience these problems. You should do this at least 3x per week, this will give you the optimal result with waxing.
3. Moisturize!! When the skin gets dry and flakey it does not allow the hair to properly grow back up through the skin. I don’t promote any certain brand but usually scent free and or plain old coconut oil, it’s scent free, inexpensive and it’s also an anti-inflammatory. You can even use the kind you cook with, just emulsify it in your hand and rub on the area that has been waxed, better yet moisturize your whole body!
4. Last case scenario but works like a charm is AMMONIUM LACTATE 12%. You can only get this by prescription but it’s very inexpensive and the bottle usually lasts 6 months. This cream is odor free and does not stain clothes. It has been used primarily for the red bumps that people get on the back of their arms which is follicle related. Apply once a day to waxed area about 24 hours after your service and use continuously if you have visible problems.
5. Lastly if you have a rash and not any ingrowns then the best thing is Hydra-cortisone, especially if you’re itchy or if you are rashy but it does not itch A&D ointment which you can find with the diaper creams is soothing to use after waxing. Make sure it says ointment and not cream, also I have only use the A&D brand and not one of the many other ones so I can’t speak on those.
Cons: Ingrown hairs can still be a problem. The hair is trying to grow up and out of the follicle but our skin sometimes can grow over and the hair gets stuck. Exfoliating with mits in a circular motion, up towards the heart or using a body scrub made from sea salt or sugar can help remove the dead skin so the hair doesn’t get trapped.
2) Waxing can be uncomfortable, each body part has a different sensation and each person has a different pain threshold (no caffeine within 2 hours prior and taking Tylenol or ibuprofen can help.
3) Redness and even sometimes bleeding can occur. Redness happens mainly on the face and bleeding primarily on very coarse hair and the main areas are back and chest for men, sometimes pubic hair and brows. It’s very miniscule but can freak people out if they aren’t warned. Redness on face can last up to 24 hours in very unusual cases, 1-3 hours is more common.
4) Bruising the only time this can happen is for women when they are near their cycle or pregnant, it’s very rare for this to occur. Also if you have an inexperienced waxer and they pull up towards the ceiling this can cause bruising.
Pros: You only need to wax every 4-6 weeks on average to allow all three stages of hair growth to come back, some people will come in every three because they hate the hair growth and want it gone. Shaving is something people do 1-2 times a day to 3-4 times a week depending on how much hair they have and how fast it grows back. Waxing pulls the hair out at the root (think about it like a weed in a garden) the hair will grow back but it takes a while for the root to grow and then become long enough to be pulled out again.
2) The more you pull it out the less likely it will be to grow back over time, waxing weakens the hair follicle unlike shaving which cuts it at the thickest part of the hair shaft therefore growing back thick and prickly.
3) The hair will grow back thinner and less coarse. Everyone is different and it can depend on your ethnic background on how long it takes for your hair to thin out and soften up. People of Irish, French and German decent as well as Mediterranean blooded people tend to have coarser, darker, thicker hair so blame your genetics for that one.
4) If all the stages of your hair have grown out properly and you have been patient and waited then you will love the feeling of freshly waxed skin. It’s smooth and you feel clean with no razor rash or burns.
So there you have it in a nutshell, waxing is awesome and worth the discomfort that goes away quickly. My suggestion if you are hesitant is to ease into slowly. Starting out with one major body part at a time or a few small ones.
So there are quite a few reasons that your skin on different parts of your body can lift or get chafed. For women during your menstrual cycle you are more prone to this or while you are pregnant. The skin is a lot more sensitive and this can happen in the bikini region. Diabetics or people taking antibiotics that are oral or topical can experience a severe redness and skin lifting. Antibiotics cause your skin to be very sensitive this is why sun exposure while on them is a bad idea as well. Topical antibiotics which are usually taken for acne or fine lines, wrinkles and rosacea exfoliate the skin. Waxing also lightly exfoliates the skin so between the two of these it’s a 50/50 chance that if you haven’t stopped taking these medications that your skin will lift.
What does it look like? I say it feels like sunburn and then gets a scab on it sort of similar to getting a cat scratch. Usually if you put a first aid ointment on your skin it will heal nicely. Best advice is to be off of any of these medications for 10-14 days. The longer you have been taking them the closer to 2 weeks you need to wait to receive facial waxing services like lip, brow, chin or jawline. Myth; I’ve heard people say “I don’t put the antibiotic cream or ointment on my brows”. Truth: the medicine travels under the skin therefore affecting the whole face. This holds true for the above mentioned services, as for the body and face Acutane, which is an oral medication derived from vitamin A and prescribed by a Doctor is the one drug that will negatively affect any part of the body you wax. Please allow 4-6 months for this drug to leave your system before resuming any waxing.
A few other reasons as to why your skin can lift during a face waxing is the wax is not warm enough and gets gooey and sticks to the skin and does not lift off nice and clean. Most “strip” waxes which are warmed up in a pot and applied to the skin and removed with a strip of pellon fabric should go on thin so that this does not happen. Also wax can be too hot, but usually a client will say something about the temperature so that the esthetician knows it needs to cool down. Lastly if someone is new to waxing and their technique is not good then skin may lift as well. If the esthetician is pulling up towards the ceiling that is a bad technique and can cause bruising or lifting, their pull should be a clean swipe parallel to the skin.
On a side note for men, the skin around the testicles is quite a bit thinner than the rest of the groin area so that can occasionally lift as well. The esthetician should put some oil and then baby powder on that area so that the wax sticks to the hair and not the skin.
The subject of removing hair in the nether region is constantly coming up. I’ve been in the business since 1992 and it took quite a while for the phenomenon of the Brazilian to Bald to catch on. Now it’s catching on for men and I love it. Obviously for me it’s a money maker and who doesn’t like to make money!? I look at it like being a Doctor, you can’t be squeamish, grossed out or offended by the human anatomy. A true professional in their trade embraces the services they offer and does so with confidence and pride. Male or female, the client should always feel comfortable and if the service provider i.e esthetician doesn’t feel comfortable then it’s awkward for both parties and that’s not fair to the paying client.
I started a huge discussion amongst friends recently and some strangers about men grooming their nether region and boy did I get a mix of answers. Some wives said heck no and some unmarried women had to think about it and said they would want to know beforehand so that they were not surprised. The benefits to waxing the bikini area for men or women…1) Hygiene especially when it’s hot out or you are traveling to a remote location that is hot. 2) Shaving causes rashes, ingrown hairs and grows back very quickly. 3) Cutting the hair with a razor or clippers causes a blunt edge therefore growing out prickly, think a man’s beard so if that is your choice of grooming you have to stay on top of it or not cut it shorter than about 1/2 inch. The coarser the hair the pricklier it is for your partner which is very uncomfortable. 4) Shaving also causes itching as the hair grows in unlike waxing which grows in finer and softer over time. 5) Waxing pulls the hair out by the follicle which then takes time to re-grow. Similar to a weed in a garden, you can pull it at the base close to the dirt or you can pull the entire weed out at the root where the bulb is so that it takes longer to regrow or kills it entirely.
Straight, gay, married or single – the bottom line is why should women be the only ones to wax? There’s nothing feminine about it as everyone human has hair and skin so they should be treated equally. So guys don’t be shy, grooming is cool and ladies don’t make fun of him or make him feel insecure. If it’s bald that bothers you then maybe just cleaning up the scrotum and testicles is a better choice. I get that it’s not for everyone and I would never try to convince you that it is, I’m just saying sometimes you can think outside the box!